How We Live

There doesn’t have to be an ‘other’

The flawed script of racism leads to the construction of an identity based on others’ inferiority.

On Instagram, the kids are alt-right

If a Nazi texted your teenager, would you want to know? We parents seem to have accepted social media as an inevitable part of our kids’ lives. They go on Instagram where we post our pretty pictures of food and artful vacation shots, and they’re Snapchatting friends and sometimes us. And in general, they’re not looking at troubling images. But that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t be concerned: It’s now clear that even Instagram is teeming with dangerous messages designed to radicalize our offspring.

IN CONVERSATION Claudia Rankine with Julie Scelfo

When it comes to examining the complexities of race in America, few scholars bring the clarity of vision as Claudia Rankine, the Frederick Iseman Professor of Poetry at Yale University and author of five poetry volumes, including Citizen: An American Lyric, which won a National Book Critics Circle Award in 2015.

Angela Duckworth on Passion, Grit and Success

Angela Duckworth was teaching math when she noticed something intriguing: The most successful students weren’t always the ones who displayed a natural aptitude; rather, they displayed something she came to think of as grit.

Just Say No, Yes or Maybe

Parents’ perspectives on marijuana use are as disparate as the nation’s mandates. Here, how five parents talk to their children about smoking pot.

A University Recognizes a Third Gender: Neutral

Rocko Gieselman goes by the pronoun “they.” Acknowledging the next step in identity politics, the University of Vermont has agreed to use it.

Video Chat Reshapes Domestic Rituals

Far-flung families are increasingly using Skype, Apple’s FaceTime and Google chat to do things together that would otherwise require a plane ticket.

Kindergarten Shop Class

Teaching children construction is gaining momentum across the country as a way to develop imagination and confidence in the very young.

The Risks of Parenting While Plugged In

Parents’ use of smartphones and laptops — and its effect on their children — is becoming a source of concern to researchers.

Grandma’s Gifts Need Extra Reindeer

Some parents struggle with how to keep well-meaning loved ones from overdoing it with gifts for the children.

Window Watchers in a City of Strangers

The ability to observe the private lives of strangers from the windows of our homes — and the knowledge that they can often watch us — has long been a part of city life.

When Do They Need a Fig Leaf?

Children like to strip down when the weather gets hot — but not everyone approves.

Trickledown Downsizing

For professionals, cutting costs can mean letting a beloved nanny or housekeeper go — and for workers who live hand-to-mouth, layoffs can be devastating.

Baby, You’re Home

A growing number of women have been opting to give birth in the intimate and familiar surroundings of home — even in small New York City apartments.

After the House Is Gone

Inability to make mortgage payments is driving families to make difficult choices and forcing them to reconsider what home means.

A Holiday Medley, Off Key

Millions of adults in interfaith marriages face the December dilemma: the annual conflict over how to decorate homes, how and when to give gifts and which rituals to celebrate.

The Power of No

Eloise Goldman struggled to hold the line. She knew it was ridiculous to spend $250 on a mini iPod for her 9-year-old son Ben.

Autism: What Happens When They Grow Up

Chicken and potatoes. Chicken and potatoes. Danny Boronat wants chicken and potatoes. He asks for it once, twice … 10 times.

Choosing Virginity

Remaining a virgin until marriage is neither an easy nor a common choice in Latoya Huggins’s part of Paterson, N.J. At least three of her friends became single mothers while they were still in high school, one by an older man who now wants nothing to do with the child.

Sex, Love and Nursing Homes

At 86, William Depippa is one hip dude. Sporting an earring and suspenders, he sparked the interest of Rosemary Gould, 62, a kindly grandmother who lived down the hall at the Barn Hill Care Center in Newton, N.J.

Happy Divorce

When Chanukah begins next week, Randy Fuerst and Susan Arnold will mark the Jewish Festival of Lights with the same beloved traditions they’ve enjoyed since they married in 1983.

A Car, A Call And A Terrible Crash

In the wee hours of Sunday, April 29, Chad Renegar was driving supermodel Niki Taylor and another friend home from a night on the town when his cell phone rang.

Good Dogs, Bad Medicine?

Marc Bluestone was devastated when his sandy-brown mutt, Shane, died on April 2, 1999. In January he’d taken her to a vet hospital in Fountain Valley, Calif., for …

Couples: Love–And Marriage?

Living with your boyfriend is fun. It also can be practical, meaningful and a sign of deep commitment. But as if to confirm the fears of nervous parents around the country …

Out At The Prom

Allen Wolff readied himself for prom like millions of other teenage boys. On the afternoon of May 25, the 17-year-old from Syracuse, New York, showered and shaved, leaving intact a thin …

Move Aside, Easy Rider

Over two rounds of beer and six baskets of chips and salsa, the group of tattooed and leather-vested bikers from New Jersey traded tips on gear and motorcycle dealers.

Blood, Guts and Money

When the first “ultimate fighters” kicked, punched and head-butted each other on national television 13 years ago, civilized observers responded with shock and disgust.

Rock-and-Roll Knitters

When Debbie Stoller, the feminist author and cofounder of Bust magazine, became obsessed with knitting in 1999, friends and even strangers responded with disbelief and occasionally disdain.

‘It’s Better and Cheaper Than Therapy’

When Dave Nadelberg, a writer in Los Angeles, discovered unsent love letters he wrote to a girl he stalked in the 10th grade, he knew they were beseeching, pathetic …

Shop Therapy for Guys

If we’ve learned anything from “Queer Eye for the Straight Guy,” it’s this: hetero men want to look good, too. The Fab Five can’t be everywhere, but soon an entire …